“till death do us part” is a part of some traditional wedding vows. This phrase signifies that the married couple intend to spend the remainder of their lives together and will be parted only by death. Most of us find these vows spiritual and a promise for a forever relationship.
Marriage, where two different people start spending their lives together, It is indeed a simultaneous change in both of their lives, and the major twist is, this change or addition in their lives is permanent, yes, ” till death do us apart” type. Everyone has a perspective or you can say expectation with their new life as married person, it may vary on gender basis too. But let me tell you one thing, change is almost equal for both of them and both have to give their 110% to their new relationship, if they really want a ever lasting relationship.
Now coming to the fact, why suddenly I thought to write about marriage and all. Beside the fact that I am indeed a newly wed, the other day I was scrolling down on a social network and a phrase got my attention, it was something like ‘marriage isn’t beautiful’ and like any other curious newly wed, I started reading it, thinking that it might explain some typical cons of marriage, mentioning all those experience when you think of your single-hood and miss your bachelor life, but to my surprise it was something else, and being honest it made me real emotional.
So as I have mentioned marriage isn’t beautiful, yea! it is. All your life you try to hide bad of you and shows the best to leave a good impression to other people but unlike being single when you marry a person you get to see worst of each other. You become transparent, now your life is an open book and that one person start living with you like your reflection. So basically your private life becomes not so private. You get to see darkest side of each other. You see their mood swings, tantrums, when they are being harsh and intolerable, when they annoy you with their irritating habits, disagreed point of views, when they seem unlovable and stubborn.
But you see what is the other side of being in a relationship you see the best side of each other too, you see them laughing so hard that tears come out of their eyes, you see the kind and loving soul under that hard and strong body, you live the best moments with each other, make memories and then laugh and cry while recalling them. You listen to the late night snoring which will be denied in the morning (personal experience). You get to see the side of each other which no one else has ever seen and trust me it’s not always pretty. Agree it or not, top of the list insecurity before marriage commitment is that you are giving permission of full excess to yourself, it’s scary.
Marriage isn’t a beautiful but its amazing. It is the feeling that someone loves you so much that you will never be alone even when you are at your worst. It is knowing that someone is always at your back to support you no matter what. It is having arguments which you know can’t be settled. It is understanding each other by their gestures. It is saying yes to any decision without having a second thought. It is like saying “everything will be alright” even when you know things are out of your hands. It is that promise of staying by each other side through every kith and kin. It’s the toughest, most demanding job which is much rewarding. Because at the end of the day, you are with your best friend, the weirdest, most annoying, loving, goofy, perfect person you know.
Marriage isn’t beautiful, it’s a roller-coaster ride.